My Name Is Snickerdoodle: Time Week 6

8.02.2012

Time Week 6

This whole time mission of mine is evolving into something other than I had first intended.  I am still going to be posting about little tricks and tips to help around the house and with life in general, but time is taking on a new meaning in my life.  It's actually helping me find meaning in my life.

This week I'm focusing on taking the time to accept my life.  It sounds kind of random and depressing, right?  Not intended to be at all.  I'm accepting my life for what it is and where I am at right nowRight now I am a mom first, wife second and then Amy last.  Read more about my thoughts on that here.   I feel like my life is so imbalanced, but that imperfect balance is my life right now.  My reality right now is that I am a mom of three active and needy boys.  With three under the age of 5, I certainly can't expect to prop my feet up all day and veg out in front of the tv/computer and have a happy family!  It won't always be hectic because my boys will grow up (no matter how hard I wish they would stay young forever!) move away and gain families of their own.   

I love my boys.  Period.  My love for them cannot be measured.  And the same goes for my husband.  I remind myself when I get a little frustrated and temperamental with home life that I wanted this.  Years ago I prayed hard to my Heavenly Father asking for this life.  At the time I didn't know what that entailed, but I for sure wanted it.  When I accept my reality for what it is right now, I feel better!  It's not a depressing thought or something that bogs me down.  

Accepting your reality is also having the knowledge that you are only in control of you.  Also, be realistic of what you can control.  I can't get my kids to grow up faster.  I can't do the laundry any faster than the machine will allow.  But I can control how I spend my time.  I can control my thoughts and attitude about my reality.

Now if comes down to you accepting your reality of something negative, that's not what I am talking about here.  If you are in a bad relationship, change it.  If there is a work situation, change it.  If you're fat, change it.  Take control of those things you have control over...i.e...you and your time!

I hope this makes sense.  I hope this helps someone else besides me.  Take the time to spend your time wisely.  

Let me leave you on a lighter note that might strike a (humorous) cord with some of you moms with young kids...

4 comments:

  1. Your positive attitude on this particular subject really struck a chord with me today. I feel as though my world is unraveling and coming apart at the seams. I wish I could accept life right now, but it's so hard and I feel so unhappy. Nothing I can really change, either. 10 years of infertility struggles, several miscarriages, my beautiful five year old miracle is finally getting a brother and we are thrilled. However, having to work while she's adjusting to so many changes with a new daycare, starting kindergarten, etc...AND hormonal from pregnancy...its a lot to handle. I just want to stay home and snuggle her all day long. Thank you for your post - it is definitely inspiring and I hope to get through this hiccup soon so I can be a better mommy. :)

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  2. Amy, do you remember that person I worked with that was always down and miserable? One day as this person was expressing how bad things were, and looking for validation, and some one to give them a pity party, I looked at this person and said " How interesting that you have made a "CHOICE" to feel this way". People don't expect to hear that and it always catches them off guard. Only you can choose how you are going to feel and no one else. So,... Grasshopper you have done well.

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  3. Thank you for sharing this, Amy. It came at a very good time.

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  4. Remember you are so great and think life is wonderful and we chose this life. Love you and Ian and the grandboys. Life would not be the same. Life is precious. You had the boys alot later in your marriage than you wanted. But as it turns out it was wonderful and three really cute kids as a result and one good lookin husband and pretty daughter. It just takes time. But isnt it worth it. Count all your blessings. Especially patience.

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